I want men to find me attractive. It satisfies my ego when a man wants me. Isn’t it fun to make a head turn? Especially as we get older and realize that our looks just aren’t the same as they were in our twenties and early thirties. I realize this need to be seen as [...]
Healing the shame that keeps you stuck
If I had to describe the men and women that I talk to, those who are trying to gently heal from food stuff, I would describe them in this way: incredibly kind. Conscientious. Earnest. Sincere. Tender hearted. Sensitive. Empathetic. Spiritual. People with deep values who try to live them out. Often high achieving/setting high expectations [...]
Softening my struggle
How to respond to family scrutiny about weight
You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There’s something about being around people that you don’t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are, and you want to belong – to be loved and accepted. [...]
Unsweetened me.
I’ve been playing with sugar recently. Sharing the holidays with friends and loved-ones often spurs the desire to “relax” into sugar. I tell myself, as I reach for the ice cream with spoon in hand, that I deserve a little treat. I know that with just a little “hit” of that sweet goodness my mind will relax, the tension [...]

