Body image

The Need to Feel Wanted

February 21, 2012 By Holly Alastra 2 Comments

I want men to find me attractive. It satisfies my ego when a man wants me. Isn’t it fun to make a head turn? Especially as we get older and realize that our looks just aren’t the same as they were in our twenties and early thirties. I realize this need to be seen as [...]

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Healing the shame that keeps you stuck

February 16, 2012 By Karly Randolph Pitman 4 Comments

If I had to describe the men and women that I talk to, those who are trying to gently heal from food stuff, I would describe them in this way: incredibly kind. Conscientious. Earnest. Sincere. Tender hearted. Sensitive. Empathetic. Spiritual. People with deep values who try to live them out. Often high achieving/setting high expectations [...]

Filed Under: Body image, Overeating, Sugar, Weight loss Tagged With: anxiety, binge eating, bulimia, depression, eating disorder, healing, low self esteem, Overeating, shame, sugar addiciton, tips, weight loss

Becoming attached – do you judge your pain?

January 26, 2012 By Karly Randolph Pitman 6 Comments

I recently shared my theory that refuge – a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment – is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory – and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]

Filed Under: Body image, Overeating, Sugar Tagged With: attachment theory, binge eating, blame, emotional eating, forgiveness, guilt, healing, Overeating, shame, spirituality

How to respond to family scrutiny about weight

December 24, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman Leave a Comment

You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There’s something about being around people that you don’t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are, and you want to belong – to be loved and accepted. [...]

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Why I’m okay buying the size large

October 10, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 9 Comments

This week, as I prepared for a live event, I realized I didn’t have a professional outfit that was also suitable for 90 degree weather. So I went shopping. Big, deep breath. I have historically avoided clothing shopping. (I wasn’t being flippant when I said I didn’t have anything to wear.) Yes, there’ve been financial [...]

Filed Under: Body image Tagged With: body acceptance, body image, healthy body image, shame, weight gain, weight loss

Loving myself unconditionally

September 21, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 6 Comments

On a daily basis – often an hourly basis – I pause, put my hand on my heart and whisper to myself, “I will not make war against my own heart.” I have so many opportunities to practice. Every day, I make mistakes. Every day, I want to jump on myself when I make those [...]

Filed Under: Body image, Overeating, Sugar, Weight loss Tagged With: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, self compassion, self forgiveness, unconditional love

A different way of working with affirmations

July 12, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 6 Comments

When I first started working on my food and body image “stuff,” I used a lot of affirmations. I would say to myself things like, “I am healthy,” “I have a beautiful body,” or “I make healthy food choices.” The only problem was that while I affirmed what I wanted, another voice would immediately pop [...]

Filed Under: Body image, Overeating, Weight loss Tagged With: addiction, food addiction, Gordon Neufeld, mindfulness, NVC, Overeating, sugar addiction, weight loss

You are never, ever, ever, ever alone.

June 28, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 12 Comments

Yesterday I sent out one of those desperate, “Help me!” prayers to the universe. Do you know the kind – when you don’t even know what to pray for, when you feel so lost, so tired that the only word that you can say is, “Help?” Do you know those moments – when you hurt [...]

Filed Under: Body image, Overeating, Sugar

Support group for overeaters with compassionate approach

May 13, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 2 Comments

Hundreds of you have emailed me with this question: Is abstinence from food addiction, sugar addiction or binge eating possible without weighing, measuring, shaming, controlling, blaming, judging, or “shoulding” all over yourself? Can a compassionate approach heal? And if so, where can I find a support group that offers this? In my deepest heart of [...]

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Trusting your goodness

April 19, 2011 By Karly Randolph Pitman 6 Comments

The outer journey of healing from food and weight suffering means changing how we care for our bodies or how we eat. The inner journey of healing means changing how we see ourselves. This is because how we see ourselves – the beliefs we hold about our goodness – affects every aspect of our lives: [...]