I recently shared my theory that refuge – a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment – is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory – and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]
How to respond to family scrutiny about weight
December 24, 2011 By Leave a Comment
You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There’s something about being around people that you don’t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are, and you want to belong – to be loved and accepted. [...]
Why I’m okay buying the size large
October 10, 2011 By 9 Comments
This week, as I prepared for a live event, I realized I didn’t have a professional outfit that was also suitable for 90 degree weather. So I went shopping. Big, deep breath. I have historically avoided clothing shopping. (I wasn’t being flippant when I said I didn’t have anything to wear.) Yes, there’ve been financial [...]
I will not make war. I will not make war. I will not make war.
September 21, 2011 By 6 Comments
A different way of working with affirmations
July 12, 2011 By 6 Comments
When I first started working on my food and body image “stuff,” I used a lot of affirmations. I would say to myself things like, “I am healthy,” “I have a beautiful body,” or “I make healthy food choices.” The only problem was that while I affirmed what I wanted, another voice would immediately pop [...]
You are never, ever, ever, ever alone.
June 28, 2011 By 12 Comments
Support group for overeaters with compassionate approach
May 13, 2011 By 2 Comments
Hundreds of you have emailed me with this question: Is abstinence from food addiction, sugar addiction or binge eating possible without weighing, measuring, shaming, controlling, blaming, judging, or “shoulding” all over yourself? Can a compassionate approach heal? And if so, where can I find a support group that offers this? In my deepest heart of [...]
Trusting your goodness
April 19, 2011 By 6 Comments
The outer journey of healing from food and weight suffering means changing how we care for our bodies or how we eat. The inner journey of healing means changing how we see ourselves. This is because how we see ourselves – the beliefs we hold about our goodness – affects every aspect of our lives: [...]
Measure your body in love
February 14, 2011 By 13 Comments
How acceptance works to change “stuck” habits
January 30, 2011 By 3 Comments
One of the 6 tools of growing human(kind)ness is acceptance. It’s a challenging practice, as it asks much of us: accepting ourselves, others, our feelings, our challenges, our limits, and life itself. We tend to resist acceptance, because in accepting “what is,” we grieve what isn’t. We grieve all the ways we wish life (or [...]
