Sweet surrender. Lay down your weary head and rest.

Tonight I put my five year old son to bed, with his cozy truck jammies on his precious little body, his favorite cuddly under his arm, and our 90 pound dog curled up tight next to his shoulders (we’re having thunderstorms here in Texas, and my dog likes a lap during thunderstorms. Really, really likes [...]

Stuck in a sugar or overeating habit? The radical solution to change.

It can feel maddening when we find ourselves doing the same thing over and over – like being stuck in a pattern of overeating or sugar bingeing – especially when we know better intellectually. We really, *really* know what to do. So why don’t we do it? In my experience, change is not a matter [...]

What to do when being kind to yourself feels like giving up

I receive a lot of very tender, precious emails from women that all say some version of the same thing – Help! Now that I’m being kinder to myself I’m feeling really *really* unmotivated to: go to the gym to lose the extra weight to set any boundary on food Most women share that they [...]

Using food as your “voice”

The theme of honesty is showing up for me over and over lately. (It’s getting rather comical.) I’m reminded of one of my favorite poets, Mary Oliver. Her poem Wild Geese begins with these lines: You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles [...]

Being kind to “negative” feelings

I don’t have PMS today. I swear. But everything is rubbing me the wrong way – that irky combination of feeling overstimulated/stressed/tense and exhausted at the same time, like I want to sleep all day and also scream at the sky! In our house, we call this feeling “inside out.” These feelings are. not. comfortable. [...]

Uprooting our deepest suffering

For most of my adult life, I’ve suffered from various forms of mental illness. I’ve had over 20 years of eating disorders, 15 years of on and off depression, and lifelong challenges with anxiety. I’ve also struggled to cope with several other traits, that while not mental illness, are often misunderstood and shamed by our [...]

Healing the shame that keeps you stuck

If I had to describe the men and women that I talk to, those who are trying to gently heal from food stuff, I would describe them in this way:  incredibly kind. Conscientious. Earnest. Sincere. Tender hearted. Sensitive. Empathetic. Spiritual. People with deep values who try to live them out. Often high achieving/setting high expectations [...]

End emotional eating with kindness

Can you befriend difficult emotions? The poet Rumi writes, This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its [...]

Becoming attached – do you judge your pain?

I recently shared my theory that refuge – a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment – is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory – and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]

Softening my struggle

I am a loving mother, a sister, a daughter – a multi-faceted individual – but I somehow in the past I found myself disqualifying all the others parts of me and concentrating on the fact that I was a food addict. In my teens I hid from life by trying to eat my fears away [...]