Becoming attached – do you judge your pain?

I recently shared my theory that refuge – a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment – is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory – and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]

Softening my struggle

I am a loving mother, a sister, a daughter – a multi-faceted individual – but I somehow in the past I found myself disqualifying all the others parts of me and concentrating on the fact that I was a food addict. In my teens I hid from life by trying to eat my fears away [...]

How attachment can heal overeating. For good.

I’ve been speaking to lots of women this week. It’s January. They’re trying to start the year positively – to finally heal this “food thing” (or sugar thing) for good. These are bright, kind, loving, perceptive women. Women who’ve often been through incredible, heartbreaking challenges in their lives – challenges they’ve handled with remarkable grace [...]

Unsweetened me.

I’ve been playing with sugar recently. Sharing the holidays with friends and loved-ones often spurs the desire to “relax” into sugar. I tell myself, as I reach for the ice cream with spoon in hand, that I deserve a little treat. I know that with just a little “hit” of that sweet goodness my mind will relax, the tension [...]

Loving where you’re at.

I’ve received hundreds of emails that all say this, in one form or another: I’m really struggling and I feel so ashamed. I’ve been there, too – in fact, I hit one of those walls this week. This time it came in the form of my old friend, anxiety. For a slew of reasons, my [...]

Does intuitive eating lead to sugar addiction?

I hear from a lot of women who’ve struggled with intuitive eating. They try to listen to their bodies and eat what they want, only to find themselves in the throes of sugar addiction. As one dear woman I’ve been coaching put it, “I tried to let myself eat what I want. I eat cookies [...]

Do you have your heart?

One of the most persnickity challenges to healing are the internal obstacles that keep us from following through on our intentions – the doubt, resistance, the “I don’t want to” and “I don’t feel like it” feelings that get in the way of change. In Heal Overeating:  Untangled* (and in these articles here and here) [...]

Why I won’t punish myself after Thanksgiving

I was at my yoga studio yesterday evening and was asking about their schedule for the rest of the week, a holiday week here in the states. As they’re closed for Thanksgiving, the girls at the front desk suggested I try the Friday “burn the bird” class. My body immediately tensed and tightened, and I [...]

How to quiet your inner food cop

I talk with hundreds of men and women who are healing from emotional eating, chronic dieting, binge eating and sugar addiction. And there’s one crucial, essential place where everyone – including me – gets stuck. It’s this:  There’s a voice – a chorus of voices – that nags at them all day. This voice is [...]

5 steps to get back on track after eating sugar

I hear from so many dedicated people who are trying to give up sugar – they recognize they’re addicted to sugar and are doing the necessary steps to stop eating it. They may be eating a sugar free diet for weeks, months or even years. And then they find themselves eating sugar again. They feel [...]