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	<itunes:summary>Women untangling from food and weight stuff</itunes:summary>
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		<title>The Need to Feel Wanted</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 13:39:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Holly Alastra</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I want men to find me attractive. It satisfies my ego when a man wants me. Isn’t it fun to make a head turn? Especially as we get older and realize that our looks just aren’t the same as they were in our twenties and early thirties. I realize this need to be seen as [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Healing the shame that keeps you stuck</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2012 07:56:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If I had to describe the men and women that I talk to, those who are trying to gently heal from food stuff, I would describe them in this way:  incredibly kind. Conscientious. Earnest. Sincere. Tender hearted. Sensitive. Empathetic. Spiritual. People with deep values who try to live them out. Often high achieving/setting high expectations [...]]]></description>
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		<title>End emotional eating with kindness</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:20:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Can you befriend difficult emotions? The poet Rumi writes, This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they&#8217;re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Becoming attached &#8211; do you judge your pain?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2012 07:51:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently shared my theory that refuge &#8211; a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment &#8211; is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory &#8211; and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Softening my struggle</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Jan 2012 22:00:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lauren-Lee</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Sugar]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I am a loving mother, a sister, a daughter &#8211; a multi-faceted individual &#8211; but I somehow in the past I found myself disqualifying all the others parts of me and concentrating on the fact that I was a food addict. In my teens I hid from life by trying to eat my fears away [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How attachment can heal overeating. For good.</title>
		<link>http://www.firstourselves.org/missing-link-overeating/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 07:46:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been speaking to lots of women this week. It&#8217;s January. They&#8217;re trying to start the year positively &#8211; to finally heal this &#8220;food thing&#8221; (or sugar thing) for good. These are bright, kind, loving, perceptive women. Women who&#8217;ve often been through incredible, heartbreaking challenges in their lives &#8211; challenges they&#8217;ve handled with remarkable grace [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How to respond to family scrutiny about weight</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 24 Dec 2011 15:28:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Weight loss]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There&#8217;s something about being around people that you don&#8217;t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are, and you want to belong &#8211; to be loved and accepted. [...]]]></description>
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			<itunes:subtitle>You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There&#039;s something about being around people that you don&#039;t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are,</itunes:subtitle>
		<itunes:summary>You may find yourself gathering with friends and family this weekend for Christmas. There&#039;s something about being around people that you don&#039;t see everyday that prompts a desire to put your best foot forward. You want to be seen for who you really are, and you want to belong - to be loved and accepted.

Of course! We all crave this acceptance.

But what if you&#039;ve gained weight since the last holiday, or since the last time you saw your holiday guests? You may be feeling vulnerable, wondering if you will be judged or criticized. You may wonder - will anyone say anything? What will they be thinking? Will they notice? And this vulnerability, and the undercurrents of anxiety in its wake, can lead right to the food!

I prepared an audio talk about this last year, for a holiday help kit program I offered on my own website. Feedback was tremendous so I offer it on this website for the first time.

In this audio, you&#039;ll find comfort, encouragement, and support if you&#039;re feeling anxious about the opinions of others - about your body or your very self - and the scrutiny it may bring during the holiday season. How do we find peace and soothe the anxiety?</itunes:summary>
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		<title>Unsweetened me.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Dec 2011 12:43:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Esther Piszczek</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been playing with sugar recently. Sharing the holidays with friends and loved-ones often spurs the desire to &#8220;relax&#8221; into sugar. I tell myself, as I reach for the ice cream with spoon in hand, that I deserve a little treat. I know that with just a little &#8220;hit&#8221; of that sweet goodness my mind will relax, the tension [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Loving where you&#8217;re at.</title>
		<link>http://www.firstourselves.org/loving-where-youre-at/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:30:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve received hundreds of emails that all say this, in one form or another: I&#8217;m really struggling and I feel so ashamed. I&#8217;ve been there, too &#8211; in fact, I hit one of those walls this week. This time it came in the form of my old friend, anxiety. For a slew of reasons, my [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Does intuitive eating lead to sugar addiction?</title>
		<link>http://www.firstourselves.org/intuitive-eating-sugar/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Dec 2011 14:11:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Karly Randolph Pitman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I hear from a lot of women who&#8217;ve struggled with intuitive eating. They try to listen to their bodies and eat what they want, only to find themselves in the throes of sugar addiction. As one dear woman I&#8217;ve been coaching put it, &#8220;I tried to let myself eat what I want. I eat cookies [...]]]></description>
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