Are you feeling hopeless about food bingeing, emotional eating, or compulsive overeating? If you’ve tried every diet, every possible food plan, or if you’ve spent years trying to heal your food “stuff,” you may be feeling discouraged. You may feel like you can never change. You may feel like there’s something’s wrong with you.
Dear one, there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not your fault. You’re not broken.
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If you’ve been unsuccessful in your attempts to stop overeating, it may simply mean that you need a different approach. Rather than focusing on “taking responsiblity” for your “mistakes,” we see responsibility differently – as being able to respond. What makes us able to respond? To do differently? To put down the fork when we’re full?
Safety. Support. Unconditional love. Compassion.
We don’t learn, heal or grow with work, will power, force, stress, striving, punishment, or coercion. This is not a process of fixing ourselves or erasing our “brokenness.” This is not about blaming ourselves for “creating” our situation with our thoughts. Instead, we gently invite you to embrace your tender humanity – to see your binge eating not as something flawed but “as a sign of the love you bear for yourself,” as a form of self protection.
To learn and grow, we need to feel safe. We feel safe when we stop judging and blaming ourselves. We feel safe when we practice self compassion, self acceptance, and unconditional love. With this foundation, we can grow – we can move out of painful behaviors like binge eating, emotional eating and overeating. We look inside and find our goodness. With this goodness, we rest.
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Get support – forum and support group
I believe that healing is impossible without support, as we are interdependent beings and meant to learn, grow and heal together, in relationship. To foster your need for belonging, understanding, and community, First Ourselves offers a free support forum. Talk with other women, create community, get support and feel less alone by sharing your story and hearing other women’s stories. We also offer a compassion based support group that meets twice a month.
What is Heal Overeating: Untangled?
Heal Overeating: Untangled is our compassionate solution to heal the roots of overeating. It’s a 12 session audio program to uncover the blocks that are keeping you from a happy, healthy weight and a happy, healthy relationship with food. You’ll learn “quick and dirty” tools for when you’re in that moment, standing in front of the fridge, as well as long term tools that get to the root of the problem.
Learn how to soften food cravings, care for your feelings without food, stop self sabotage, soothe anxiety, move out of resistance and ambivalence, drop blame, and unhook from the thoughts that send you into food.
