As women learn to break the cycle of emotional overeating, making our way through the Heal Overeating: Untangled support program, I have another audio blog to share:
One of the hardest aspects of overeating or binge eating is shame. Are you hiding out in your home, feeling large and shameful? If we don’t feel ‘okay’ and then we don’t want to share this person — share our very selves — with other people. We can become reclusive. In this talk I explore the layers of shame we accumulate, and how to dig out for a fresh start. Can you be, hmm, shameless?
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Karly, I found very interesting the difference you point between “asking why” and “caring, feeling pain”, and the fact that “asking why” can be a way (another !) to avoid. Do you explore that question somewhere else ? in the forum ?
Hi Aurelie,
This is a part of Untangled (session 10, dropping blame and forgiving ourselves.) Blame is a way to avoid feeling the simple fact of, “I hurt.” As long as I’m trying to uncover why – why do I overeat? Why did other people hurt me? etc. etc. it keeps me from feeling the ouch of, “I hurt.” We get out of blame when we stop running from the pain and sit with the ouch, caring for it.
XO, Karly
Hi There!
I listened to your words and wondered about replacing shame and blame and judgment with the virtues of CARING, HONESTY, LOVE and SELF-DiSCIPLINE.
Who Am I really?
With compassion I can be more gentle.
Warmly,
Delaram
http://www.virtuesconnectionportland.com