Healing the shame that keeps you stuck

If I had to describe the men and women that I talk to, those who are trying to gently heal from food stuff, I would describe them in this way:  incredibly kind. Conscientious. Earnest. Sincere. Tender hearted. Sensitive. Empathetic. Spiritual. People with deep values who try to live them out. Often high achieving/setting high expectations [...]

End emotional eating with kindness

Can you befriend difficult emotions? The poet Rumi writes, This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its [...]

Becoming attached – do you judge your pain?

I recently shared my theory that refuge – a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment – is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory – and who wondered, Yes, but how?? How do I create [...]

How attachment can heal overeating. For good.

I’ve been speaking to lots of women this week. It’s January. They’re trying to start the year positively – to finally heal this “food thing” (or sugar thing) for good. These are bright, kind, loving, perceptive women. Women who’ve often been through incredible, heartbreaking challenges in their lives – challenges they’ve handled with remarkable grace [...]

Loving where you’re at.

I’ve received hundreds of emails that all say this, in one form or another: I’m really struggling and I feel so ashamed. I’ve been there, too – in fact, I hit one of those walls this week. This time it came in the form of my old friend, anxiety. For a slew of reasons, my [...]

Do you have your heart?

One of the most persnickity challenges to healing are the internal obstacles that keep us from following through on our intentions – the doubt, resistance, the “I don’t want to” and “I don’t feel like it” feelings that get in the way of change. In Heal Overeating:  Untangled* (and in these articles here and here) [...]

Are you highly sensitive and sugar addicted?

If you’re someone who is both highly sensitive and sensitive to sugar (which may appear in your life as a susceptability to sugar addiction or overeating), you’re not alone. It’s a pairing that I see over and over again – and one I see in myself. Being highly sensitive means you pick up more from [...]

Caring for anxiety without overeating

I went walking this morning in new socks. They’re super thin – great for the heat – but very slippery. I began my walk feeling uncertain and tentative, like my feet weren’t supported on the ground. I felt like my feet would slip out from under me at any moment. I thought about this metaphor [...]

A different way of working with affirmations

When I first started working on my food and body image “stuff,” I used a lot of affirmations. I would say to myself things like, “I am healthy,” “I have a beautiful body,” or “I make healthy food choices.” The only problem was that while I affirmed what I wanted, another voice would immediately pop [...]

Geneen Roth: 5 Reasons to Read Women, Food & God

I love Geneen Roth‘s work. When I was first diving into my “food stuff,” her books were a lifeline that enabled me to unhook from food and weight pain. Geneen’s latest book, Women, Food and God, is brilliant. That’s what I’ve heard from everyone who’s read it. (It’s on my reading list, too.) Many women [...]