End emotional eating with kindness

Can you befriend difficult emotions? The poet Rumi writes, This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its [...]

How attachment can heal overeating. For good.

I’ve been speaking to lots of women this week. It’s January. They’re trying to start the year positively – to finally heal this “food thing” (or sugar thing) for good. These are bright, kind, loving, perceptive women. Women who’ve often been through incredible, heartbreaking challenges in their lives – challenges they’ve handled with remarkable grace [...]

Loving where you’re at.

I’ve received hundreds of emails that all say this, in one form or another: I’m really struggling and I feel so ashamed. I’ve been there, too – in fact, I hit one of those walls this week. This time it came in the form of my old friend, anxiety. For a slew of reasons, my [...]

Does intuitive eating lead to sugar addiction?

I hear from a lot of women who’ve struggled with intuitive eating. They try to listen to their bodies and eat what they want, only to find themselves in the throes of sugar addiction. As one dear woman I’ve been coaching put it, “I tried to let myself eat what I want. I eat cookies [...]

5 steps to get back on track after eating sugar

I hear from so many dedicated people who are trying to give up sugar – they recognize they’re addicted to sugar and are doing the necessary steps to stop eating it. They may be eating a sugar free diet for weeks, months or even years. And then they find themselves eating sugar again. They feel [...]

Are you highly sensitive and sugar addicted?

If you’re someone who is both highly sensitive and sensitive to sugar (which may appear in your life as a susceptability to sugar addiction or overeating), you’re not alone. It’s a pairing that I see over and over again – and one I see in myself. Being highly sensitive means you pick up more from [...]

Stop sugar cravings with kindness

In the First Ourselves support group, we’re exploring how kindness can soften sugar cravings. It sounds impossible, doesn’t it? When we crave sugar, we tend to have 1 of 2 reactions:  we either try to control, white knuckle, suppress, shut up, or cut out the feeling of wanting. Or we act out the craving by eating [...]

Is your mind like a “scary neighborhood?” How our thoughts keep us trapped in sugar addiction

Writer Anne Lamott once said, “My mind is like a bad neighborhood – I try not to go there alone.” Meditation teacher Tara Brach put it this way – “The mind has no shame.” Both these quotes make me laugh, because they describe my experience and normalize it – how our minds get caught in [...]

A different way of working with affirmations

When I first started working on my food and body image “stuff,” I used a lot of affirmations. I would say to myself things like, “I am healthy,” “I have a beautiful body,” or “I make healthy food choices.” The only problem was that while I affirmed what I wanted, another voice would immediately pop [...]